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Christianity & Homosexuality.

I realize there are probably a million posts on this topic around the web, but I want to present just a slightly different perspective (Honestly, I’m writing this for all the Christians that I used to know when I, too, considered myself a “Christian,” as I understand the way they think and I can generally see the exact points where their logic goes awry). So, without further ado, this is what I’d like to discuss with any Christians who believe that homosexuality is a sin: why?

So far as I can tell, there isn’t a single logical reason that the Christian community has presented as to why homosexuality is a ‘sin.’ In the past, Christians have made attempts at logical reasons like, “homosexuals are more likely to molest children,” or “children growing up in a homosexual household will have severe mental issues,” and even “homosexuality is unnatural.”  All such reasons have since been proven wrong, and most Christians have retreated to the defense that homosexuality is a sin – or somehow morally wrong – simply because the Bible says so.  This, quite obviously, makes no logical sense.  In order to claim that something is morally wrong – and yes, even Christians know this – you must have a better reason than “because so-and-so said so.”  It doesn’t matter if the so-and-so is someone you believe to be God.  Why?  Because, with that logic, you end up like the Pentecostals who won’t cut their hair “because the Bible says so,” or Baptists who won’t let women preach because “the Bible says so,” or even the Jews who won’t eat pork or shellfish – why? – of course, because the Bible says so.  The Christians I grew up around considered all of these groups of people to be Bible-illiterate, or interpreting the Bible incorrectly, yet they all are doing the same thing with regards to homosexuality these days.

Now, to be clear, some moral claims Christians make from the Bible do make logical sense.  Murdering and stealing involve infringing on another person’s rights.  Cheating and dishonesty erode the trust that is necessary for healthy relationships.  Being a drunk causes you to make horrible decisions and can be extremely bad for your health – physically and mentally.  However, when it comes to homosexuality, there are literally no logical reasons why it should be considered a sin – as in, morally wrong – only the overused claim that “the Bible says so.”  (Which, in fact, it really doesn’t, but that’s a whole post on its own.)

I would love to hear a logical reason as to why homosexuality is a sin – here’s one last one that I’ve heard:  homosexual couples aren’t able to reproduce.  But of course, in that case, those who are unable to bear children together should also be considered sinners, as should those who choose to remain single/celibate and couples who choose not to have kids. 

So, again I ask: why

Thanks for reading, and have a GRRRRREAT day!
Much love, ❤

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on Emotions.

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I feel like people are very emotionally repressed these days.  We’re regularly encouraged – mostly by big media outlets like TV, film, and radio – to hide our emotions, bury them, deny them, and express them in unhealthy ways.  I want to shine a light on what some of those ways are – as they aren’t always easy to spot if you’re not looking for them – as well as discuss some healthy alternatives to the examples we so often are presented with.  (:

One of the most obvious examples is anger.  Reality TV teaches people to be catty, aggressive, and even violent, and most other media outlets seem to promote violence as an appropriate reaction to anger as well.  You won’t find many examples of people just talking out their problems like the grown adults that they should be, because apparently it doesn’t make for “good TV”, but I have learned from experience that most disagreements are a result of some kind of miscommunication and can be solved with calm, well thought-out, proper communication.

Sadness is often portrayed as something for the “weak,” especially if you’re male, but also if you’re female – there was a song that came out just a few years ago by Fergie entitled “Big Girls Don’t Cry.”  If sadness is being portrayed as an okay emotion to feel, it is often done so in this whiney, poor-me, the-world-is-ending, I’m-so-depressed kind of way.  I think sadness is one of those emotions that you should definitely feel to the fullest without trying to repress it, but then after feeling it fully you’ve got to move through it and past it – it shouldn’t be something that consumes you.

Jealousy is a really scary one, as it is often accepted as warranting controlling and even abusive behavior (so many mega-hit pop songs today are about basically abusive relationships – Maroon 5’s One More Night has 200 million views on Youtube, Lady Gaga’s Bad Romance has 525 million, and Eminem and Rihanna’s Love the Way You Lie? 581 million.)  In my opinion, we are far too accepting of jealousy – and as a result, controlling behaviors like screening texts – especially in romantic, but honestly all relationships today.  But that’s because that’s all the media ever lets us see.  Jealousy actually represents insecurities, and the healthy way to deal with it is to identify said insecurities and work through them – not use it as an excuse to dictate somebody else’s behavior.

When it comes to what we think of as some of the “better” emotions – feeling love, as one example – we’re often taught not to “let it show” and even just avoid love altogether because it can be “risky.”  While I do agree that anytime you choose to trust someone you are taking an emotional risk, the biggest risks are usually attached to the greatest rewards, and the only way to have truly fulfilling relationships is to put yourself out there knowing full well that you could be rejected.  As for something like happiness – especially if it is resulting from any accomplishments – you’ll usually see it as something to rub in people’s faces while “fxcking the haterz,” but I wholeheartedly believe that joy is something that we should be sharing and not keeping to ourselves.

Last, but not least – and this really shouldn’t take much explaining: our naturally sexual nature has been twisted and made into something dirty and shameful when it is actually beautiful and (in my opinion) sacred.  I don’t have the typical conservative view that sexuality should be kept behind closed doors and nudity should only be acceptable between two people in a relationship together, but I do think that we should view the human body, as well as sex, in a respectful way and not in the hyper-sexual, shallow way it is often presented in.

So that’s my opinion on many common emotions and feelings and how they’re often misrepresented.  It’s a proven fact that emotional repression, as well as any unhealthy expressing of emotion, only leads to further unhealthiness and unhappiness.  We do all know how bad mental stress and anxiety is for your body, right?  Good. (: If not, go look it up!  Anyway, I think we need to learn how to deal with intense emotions in much more healthy and appropriate ways.  I hope I was able to give you an idea of what that looks like with this post.

As always – much love to you all,

Unplug.

A good majority of adults in America today spend most of their time either sleeping (obviously) or doing things they don’t truly want to do (read: working a job they don’t like).  The cost of living is so high that a forty-hour job barely cuts it, what with kids to feed and all.  Most people are in debt, as our economy runs on it..  Did you know the economy will crash if more debt isn’t constantly being created? Look it up if you don’t believe me.

To escape the job they don’t like and the growing mountain of debt they can’t pay off, millions of Americans go home after work each night, get comfy on the sofa, and watch TV ‘till bedtime.  On-screen, they’re shown images of happy people with oversized houses, fancy clothes, brand-new cars and, of course, no debt.  They internalize the ideas that if they just work hard enough, if they could just buy a few more things: they, too, can be like those people on TV, living happily ever after.

But what is shown on TV is not reality, despite the fact that it is often presented as such (Reality TV, anybody?).  People who spend nearly half of their waking hours doing something they don’t like to do are not happy people.  People who own a lot of “stuff” are not happy people.  People who live in a racist, sexist, homophobic, shallow, violent, judgmental, backstabbing, materialistic society are NOT happy people.  But, of course, that is what TV generally portrays. 

Cable television exists for one reason: to make money.  They need you to feel like you’re always in a state of lack – physically and emotionally.  They need you to be insecure and unhappy so that their products can make you “secure” and “happy”.  They need you to be dumb – that way you don’t think about the things they tell you (or don’t) and instead you mindlessly consume.  They need you to be individualistic:  who cares if you only use something once every six months?  You need one of your own – and so does every.  Body.  Else.

How long is it going to take for us to realize that it’s all lies?  There are enough resources and enough labor to take care of everybody’s basic needs and still have plenty of both left over.  Happiness comes from within – from loving yourself, and loving others, from doing things you enjoy, and being grateful for what you have.  Money is not the answer to our problems: our currency is rapidly losing value while wages are stagnant and prices are rising.  It is time to snap back to the real Reality.

I know that we all want a better life, if not for ourselves, than for our children.  But that life isn’t going to happen as long as we keep doing what we’ve always done. It’s time to change some things up.  This is the 21st century, not the eighteen- or nineteen-hundreds. Unplug from the TV that serves to keep you locked in an Old Paradigm.  Spend some time reading, or in nature, or creating art, or meeting new people.  I guarantee you’ll begin to feel like a new – and happy – person.

Lots of Love,
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Does Anybody?


*I wrote this on a whim, to go with the above song.. Feel free to listen while you read.

Does anybody else cry over the smallest amount of spilled milk?
Does anybody else get overly angry at those slower-than-slow drivers on the highway?
Does anybody else go outside at sunset, just to take in the beauty of it?
I do.

Does anybody else love to eat chocolate ice cream straight out of the carton?
Does anybody else dance or sing their heart out in front of the mirror when nobody’s home?
Does anybody else follow current events, just so they can feel like they’re part of a bigger picture?
I do.

Does anybody else worry about what the world will look like in the next five, ten, fifty years?
Does anybody else think our one-week vacations to the beach are too few and far between?
Does anybody else see the twinkling stars at night and wish they could escape this place?
I do.

Does anybody else feel like life is eluding them, somewhere behind school, work, dating, bills, fads, TV, Facebook, movies, parties, and politics?
Does anybody else cherish every moment spent with friends, family, and lovers, because that’s when you truly feel alive?
Does anybody else want to go back to the basics, and live a simpler life?
I do.

Does anybody else see the starving children in EVERY country and wish those children could partake in the extreme excess of food we have here in America?
Does anybody else’s heart pound when they listen to a chorus of hundreds of people, all singing about the same goals and dreams?
Does anybody else wonder if they are losing it sometimes?
I do.

Does anybody else wonder where the love has gone?
Does anybody else question the current state of our world?
Does anybody else wonder what happened?
Does anybody?

..Anybody?

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#thankful4 Wednesday: Rain

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Anybody who knows me knows I am a sun-kind of girl.  Where I live, in the springtime, it will sometimes stay cloudy and rainy for weeks straight, and I usually get really moody and depressed as a result.  I need sunlight.

However, here for the past 3+ weeks, it hasn’t rained a drop – until today.  I never thought I could be so happy to see the rain!  When it started raining I rolled my car’s window down and stuck my head outside just to feel the water on my face.  When I got home and stepped out of the car the smell of the rain was overwhelming – in a very good way.  Today – though it is unusual for me – I am very thankful for the rain.  (And I’m sure my garden is, too.)

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* Every Wednesday, I post a picture and a couple paragraphs about something – usually something out of the ordinary – that I’m thankful for. Anybody who wants to is welcome to join me on this endeavor. (;

On Being Happy

Even though America has some of the best Standards of Living in the world, as a whole, we Americans are a pretty unhappy Bunch. Too many people in America today are far too unhappy with their lives, and it is generally for some of the most trivial of reasons.

I’m going to speculate that a lot of our unhappiness is due to the fact that, in order for the machine of American Capitalism (a blog post of it’s own) to keep on running, money has to keep on circulating in very large amounts.  Now, we all know that human beings have a rather small number of real needs – food, water, shelter, sleep, and air pretty much covers it.  However, these few needs, even when combined, don’t add up to a whole lot of money circulating in the economy; it’s hard to even make a profit off sleep, water or air!  Given this, the only logical way for that money to make its rounds is for people to buy things they don’t need. 

Now, in America we’ve learned that the Best way to sell people things they don’t need is to make them feel like there actually is a need, then proceed fill that need with your own product.  Basically, it is creating insecurities to ensure that people keep on buying Things. Now, if that were how a few companies wanted to sell their product and they managed to do it, y’know, Big Deal.  However, when the Entire Economy of a country is run on making people feeling Incomplete in some way – guess what?  You’re going to have a country that is, as a whole, unsatisfied with their lives to an unparalleled degree.

It’s been said a million times before, but we Seriously Need to realize that owning any amount of stuff, even owning the Entire World cannot and will not make us Happy.  What makes people happy is Experiences. Love.  Beauty.  Peace.  Community!  Not having to Stress.  Not having to fear for one’s life.  Not having to worry.

I find the best way to cultivate an attitude that brings joy to your entire life is to simply be Thankful.  Appreciate everything and Love everyone, because we aren’t here very long, and any day could well be your Last.  Tell everyone you love that you love them, and be sure do so often.  Think about things from the point of view of yourself on your deathbed.  Will this moment really matter to me then?  What will I wish I had done right now?  Then, do it. 

Take risks.  Push yourself.  Ask questions. 

Appreciate everything, and love Everyone.

Life is as beautiful as We Make it.
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Nature is Calling.

In the fast-paced, technological society that is “western civilization,” we are rapidly losing the very few connections we have left to Nature, and to Each other. Certain plants have been outlawed, big Agribusiness is trying to control seeds, nudity is viewed as something to be ashamed or embarrassed of, we treat animals as though they have aren’t sentient living Beings, and our food is so chemical-laden that it can hardly be called food. When this “food” makes us sick, we lace our body with even more Unknown Chemicals, rather than turning to the earth and the plants, which have been humanity’s medicine since we were first able to conceive of such a thing.

And that is just the beginning. Our children are choosing to stay cooped up in Air Conditioned houses rather than going and Playing Outside. When we do go out into nature, we stick to pre-made paths and designated “parks” rather than going into Nature. People are more and more individualized, and are, more and more, unable to truly connect and be Real with others. We let our fellow human beings starve while We stuff our mouths. We’re glued to screens 24/7, and think being in the sun too much will give us cancer (how did people do it for 100,000 years prior?). We poison our waters with oil and toxic chemicals, and meanwhile we’re cutting down the main source of the Air we breathe at an alarming rate.

We believe that the dizzying system of laws and regulations that we Created are real and have more control over our lives than Us Ourselves. We’ve forgotten that we are Free People, who are supposed to be in control of What We Do, and are supposed to have a say in OUR WORLD. We are the ones who will determine what the future looks like, but most of us are too busy watching the Latest Reality Show to even know what it means to actually have a voice and contribute to Our Society.

We’ve got to disconnect with this System we so willingly Lock ourselves into, and reconnect with the Reality that there is only Earth and our fellow human beings. There’s so much more to Life than just football and Celebrity Gossip. The Natural world is full of beauty of All kinds: colorful birds that sing Beautiful Songs, thousands of unique species of plants, insects, and animals, flowing rivers, sparkling lakes and oceans, majestic Mountains, sunny Valleys, buzzing Rainforests, and of course, Human Culture of all different types.

Let’s not forget what it is that really matters in Life. Love, adventure, Laughter, Hope, and Beauty are becoming ever hard to find in the “civilized” cities that represent Western Society. Dull and grey, almost completely void of anything resembling real Nature, we will suffocate in them if we don’t change course, and soon!

But we can bring our cities back to Life. Plant more plants, especially edible ones! Create more art, use more color, and smile at the people you walk by every day. Start doing Your Part to create a Better World, and I guarantee a Better World will come. We can create it together, but the key word there is Together. Reconnect with the Earth, and we will reconnect with Each other.

We can do this. Nature is Calling.
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Life is Good.

“Smile, ‘cause Life is Good!”

I’ve been repeating these words to myself as often I as I can remember to lately, because I tend to, like most people in Western Society, take many things for granted that I really am Lucky to have.  A nice place to live, a comfortable bed, and nourishing food are just a few things that get taken for granted on a daily basis by people in “developed countries” who are able to afford such Luxuries.

In my past, there have been at least a few instances where I let negative thoughts, anxiety and stress really get to me for an extended period of time.  It doesn’t take too long, though, before I am a complete emotional wreck (sometimes crying multiple times a day!).  I’ve noticed that what separates those depressing times from the ecstatic, high points of my life is a lot about my attitude towards things, and not so much about what is actually happening to me on a day to day basis.  When I stop taking notice of all the little things that make me happy – the smell of coffee, the sound of birds singing, and so on – life really loses the magical charm that it has during the times when I remember to be grateful for Everything that I have the joy of Experiencing.

Something that I’ve learned to do in order to keep a positive outlook on things is to get a piece of paper, write at the top “I am Thankful for…” and complete the sentence, listing everything I can that I feel in Any Way grateful for.  I try to think outside the Box and get creative about what I write down, as this helps me to start taking joy in things I previously hadn’t even thought about – the feeling of the sun on my face, or the fact that I even have time to sit around and think about these things, for that matter.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, if you want to change your Life, you’ve got to change the way you Think.  I no longer have to sit down and write out a list in order to get that giddy, almost magical feeling of how Amazing life is.  I just tell myself “Smile, ‘cause Life is Good,” fifty times a day and watch my Life transform in front of my Eyes.
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Flow

”A good traveler has no Fixed plans, and is not Intent on Arriving.” – Lao Tzu

I find myself often striving to find a seemingly nonexistent balance between Making things Happen and Letting things Happen. On the one hand, I feel that people should recognize the amount of control we can have over our lives and take action about things that matter to Us. Too often, I see people complaining about situations in their lives that they could completely change – if they only knew their True Power.

On the other hand, learning to let go of the reigns and realizing that we Can’t Control Everything (or everyone) is an important lesson I think everyone should learn. As Buddha said, attachment is the root of all Suffering, and attachment to any specific outcome can be damaging when the inevitable happens and something doesn’t Go as Planned.

It can be easy, sometimes, to get so consumed with, or worried about what will happen in the future that you miss what’s happening right in front of you. Though taking control of your Life is extremely important, living in the moment and Letting things Flow is equally as important – if not more – because no matter how much control you think you have, the world’s still gonna throw you a curveball every now and Again.

Basically (though nothing is Basic), I think it’s a constant balancing act between the Two; things need to be taken situation by situation. As for right now, it seems as though the Universe is trying to teach me to just Go with the Flow.

So Flow it is.
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