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Christianity & Homosexuality.

I realize there are probably a million posts on this topic around the web, but I want to present just a slightly different perspective (Honestly, I’m writing this for all the Christians that I used to know when I, too, considered myself a “Christian,” as I understand the way they think and I can generally see the exact points where their logic goes awry). So, without further ado, this is what I’d like to discuss with any Christians who believe that homosexuality is a sin: why?

So far as I can tell, there isn’t a single logical reason that the Christian community has presented as to why homosexuality is a ‘sin.’ In the past, Christians have made attempts at logical reasons like, “homosexuals are more likely to molest children,” or “children growing up in a homosexual household will have severe mental issues,” and even “homosexuality is unnatural.”  All such reasons have since been proven wrong, and most Christians have retreated to the defense that homosexuality is a sin – or somehow morally wrong – simply because the Bible says so.  This, quite obviously, makes no logical sense.  In order to claim that something is morally wrong – and yes, even Christians know this – you must have a better reason than “because so-and-so said so.”  It doesn’t matter if the so-and-so is someone you believe to be God.  Why?  Because, with that logic, you end up like the Pentecostals who won’t cut their hair “because the Bible says so,” or Baptists who won’t let women preach because “the Bible says so,” or even the Jews who won’t eat pork or shellfish – why? – of course, because the Bible says so.  The Christians I grew up around considered all of these groups of people to be Bible-illiterate, or interpreting the Bible incorrectly, yet they all are doing the same thing with regards to homosexuality these days.

Now, to be clear, some moral claims Christians make from the Bible do make logical sense.  Murdering and stealing involve infringing on another person’s rights.  Cheating and dishonesty erode the trust that is necessary for healthy relationships.  Being a drunk causes you to make horrible decisions and can be extremely bad for your health – physically and mentally.  However, when it comes to homosexuality, there are literally no logical reasons why it should be considered a sin – as in, morally wrong – only the overused claim that “the Bible says so.”  (Which, in fact, it really doesn’t, but that’s a whole post on its own.)

I would love to hear a logical reason as to why homosexuality is a sin – here’s one last one that I’ve heard:  homosexual couples aren’t able to reproduce.  But of course, in that case, those who are unable to bear children together should also be considered sinners, as should those who choose to remain single/celibate and couples who choose not to have kids. 

So, again I ask: why

Thanks for reading, and have a GRRRRREAT day!
Much love, ❤

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Jesus wasn’t Christian.

In Jesus’ time, there was no such thing as “Christianity,” and after Jesus died, Christianity as we know it today took a very long time to develop into its current form. 

Around the time of Jesus’ death, different groups of “Christians” formed, but most of them did not call themselves that.  The first use of Christian (those referred to as Christians in Antioch in Acts) was actually a kind of nick-name formed in an almost derogatory way to refer to people who “associated with Christ and/or his teachings.”  Christians didn’t even come up with the name themselves – most Christians were originally referred to as Nazarenes. 

So, obviously, Jesus was not a Christian in terminology.  But that isn’t all – many things that I hear Christians define themselves by today, you never hear Jesus do the same in the Bible.  Jesus did not define himself by his being against abortion or against homosexuality, though both did exist in his time.  He wasn’t a hardcore capitalism advocate, and judging by the things he said and did – like tipping over money-changing tables in the temple and advocating that, in order to follow him, rich people sell all their possessions and give that money to the poor – he probably wouldn’t be too fond of it if he were alive today.

Jesus wasn’t generally one to go around advocating all kinds of strict rules or being what you would call legalistic – on more than one occasion he discusses how love should supersede such legalism and criticizes the Pharisees for their inability to see beyond “what the scriptures said.”  (Sound familiar?)  Also, in Jesus’ time there was not yet a gospel to preach, in the sense that the whole crucifixion-resurrection thing had not happened yet, and even though Jesus – according to Christians – knew what was going to happen to him, he didn’t go around telling people that “unless you believe that I’m going to die for your sins here in a couple of months, you are gonna go to Hell!”  No, that’s not very Jesus-like.

What does seem to be Jesus-like is Love.  When asked what the most important commandment was, Jesus dismissed all previous commandments that had ever been made and said love.  Not just of God, but of your neighbor (which I take to mean every human being on earth) and yourself.  That’s kind of a huge deal.  According to Jesus, it matters more that you live a life of love towards everyone than anything else God (supposedly) ever said to do!  Now, granted – I believe that the Bible has been altered in ways we have no clue about in order to suit much bigger powers’ interests, so I’m not trying to use it as an “absolute” in the same way so many Christians do.  However, I do think that in reading about the things Jesus said and did, you will see that he was constantly preaching love, love, and love

Imagine if Love were the Number One thing associated with Christians today.  Oh, what a World that would be.  (;

Much Love to you all,

Moar Nudity.

This topic really gets me riled up for some reason.  I think it’s because from growing up, I personally know the general “conservative” stance on the subject and I know how much energy they give to it and how they look at it.  Nowadays, I’ll see people freaking out about nudity and pornography like “HOLY mother of Jesusssss! Naked bodies and reproducing: that’s the most sinful, immoral, shameful, disgusting thing our kids could ever SEEEEEE! This is why the world is going down the drainnnnn!”

And I’m just like… It is.  A body.  A. BODY.  Teach your kids what they look like from a young age and it will be no surprise to them to see them (research confirms this).  Teach your kids respect for other people and you don’t have to worry about them looking at people in dirty or perverted ways.  Teach your kids why sex is for adults and what it involves and its consequences, etcetera, etcetera, and maybe, just maybe, they’ll make the right choices. If not, guess what?  They’ll learn their lesson!  It’s not your job to literally keep them from making any and all bad choices they might make in life.  It’s your job to inform them and be there for them, guiding them the entire way.

I know – again, personally – from having parents who didn’t really talk to me about sexuality and the like, that if they had encouraged me to just be open with them, instead of making the topic of sex more or less taboo in our household, I probably wouldn’t have gone behind their backs when it came to stuff like that.  I would have just told them up front, or at least would have told them when they asked (if it were done so lovingly, and not accusingly).  But, of course, that’s not what happened.  So instead, I hid it.  So that I wouldn’t get in trouble.  I was more worried about getting in trouble than I was concerned about being honest with my parents.

If that sounds like a recipe for disaster, it’s because it is.  Being able to trust your parents is an important thing.  There has to be a better method of disciplining.

But more on topic.. why sexuality?  Why is it that out of the nearly infinite number of things you could choose to represent immorality, you choose sex?  Something completely natural.  What is it that’s just so disgustingly immoral about it?  Please tell me. 

People are murdered cold-blood every day.  Why don’t you feel so strongly about that?  Most people won’t think twice about letting their kids watch a movie whose entire plot revolves around two people trying to kill each other, or play a game with the same goal — killing.  “Have at it!  The bloodier the better!” they’ll say.  Now take a movie and make it revolve around two people falling in love, then put a sex scene in it.  Oh, now you want to freak out.  Now you want to moan and groan about how immoral our society is becoming.  You people make me sick sometimes.

Teach your kids LOVE.  Teach them peace, and patience.  Teach critical thinking and COMPASSION.  Honesty.  Sharing.  Respect.  And being Real.  Stop worrying so much about if they might accidentally see a breast somewhere, or – God forbid – people procreating. 

People seriously believe that that is what is corrupting the youth of today.  And that’s what the hell is wrong with this world.

Still love you guys though,

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“I am an Ignostic – I refuse to be drawn on the question of whether God exists until somebody properly defines the terms.”  – John Lloyd in TEDtalk: Tour of the Invisible

Asking the question “Does God exist?” is kind of like trying to ask “are drugs bad?” Well, which drug are we referring to?  In what quantities and in what situation?  What does ‘bad’ mean?  Addictive?  Bad for you physically?  Mentally?  You see, the answer to a question depends on what the question actually means, and “does God exist?” is an extremely vague question with a million possible meanings.  What God do you mean?  What are his characteristics?  We’d probably be best off scrapping the word God altogether because, at this point, it’s a completely subjective term.

Even within theistic religions people’s definitions of God can vary greatly.  Not only are there typically different sects and sometimes even sub-sects within religions that debate on the nature of God, but even two people who may claim to believe in the exact same God might actually have very different personal views on who God is to them.

When you look at things that way, the terms atheist and theist seem sort of silly and irrelevant, at least to me.  Given the specific definition of God, which can be damn-near well anything the user of the term pleases, the person’s view may and probably will change.  A Muslim, for example, can refer to himself as a theist but in relation to the Hindu God, they are an atheist.  The same can go for Christians in relation to Allah.  Someone who is an ‘atheist’ in one sense might be agnostic in another (though, I think we’re technically all agnostic we just can’t admit it). 

What I’m trying to say is we’re all just playing a silly name-game here instead of just looking at things as they are, no labels involved at all, and making a claim about the validity of a statement after you have actually been confronted with it.  There’s no reason to try and reject something up-front; that is unscientific.  If someone makes a statement you don’t agree with, argue with them about that specific statement using reason and logic, but there’s no reason to be like “Oh, I’m an atheist, I reject all notions and definitions of God no matter what they are or how you came up with them, even though I know it is not actually possible to prove that God doesn’t exist any more than that he does and in making the claim that God does not exist I’m claiming to know something that is actually unknowable.”

The renowned “atheist” Sam Harris has made similar arguments regarding the use of the term atheist and I tend to agree with him.  What we need to combat the ignorance involved in religion is not just another group of people who will devolve in to group-think and get glued to their ‘pillar beliefs’ of God “not existing” – basically an anti-religion.  What we need is for people to realize that the problem in religion is not necessarily the belief in God or a higher power, but the lack of logic involved when it comes to defending one’s beliefs in said higher power, typically because of the group-think that comes into play when you decide to slap a label on yourself and say “I believe these things and that’s all there is to it.”

Labels have a place, but when it comes to making truth-claims about things that are at this point unknowable, I think we should refrain from using them as much as possible.  People get easily attached to certain identities they’ve constructed about themselves, and labels tend to only further that attachment.  They also obviously encourage sticking to one’s current beliefs – even in the face of conflicting evidence – rather than being open to changing them.

So, does God exist or not?  That is not something I can tell you.  I can tell you that I personally believe that we puny little humans know nothing, and that it is more likely that there are things ‘out there’ that we simply cannot comprehend at this stage in our evolution than not.  Are those things God?  I don’t know.  Are they something we might consider God-like?  Perhaps.  But I’d much rather go into this inquiry with an open mind, ready to accept any answers that come to me, than with a mind closed off by a label – even if the label is as well-intentioned as that of, say, an “atheist.”

Love to you all,

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Changing Perspectives.

“Before you judge me, walk a mile in my shoes.” – Unknown

I often feel like I need to be a voice for the Muslim community, even though I am not a Muslim myself.  The way that Muslims are treated, especially by Christians in America is so much more hateful than anything I’ve ever seen a True Muslim do.

I’ve heard people call for killing them all, burning their mosques, blowing their countries to pieces, and “silencing” them by any number of grotesque means.  Not only are these things incredibly violent and hateful, but if I believed in “the devil” I would much sooner attribute such speech to him than I would the Religion of Islam.

I do not condone the actions of any so-called “terrorists.”  I do not believe in killing innocent people, ever.  However, imagine this with me, if you will:

You are an average 18-yr-old Muslim boy just minding your own business living life in Iraq in 2003, somewhere near Baghdad but not in it.  Maybe you were going to school there.  You certainly did not condone the actions of the men who perpetrated 9/11.  Neither did many of the people you know.  Social media wasn’t as developed as it is now, so there was no “getting on Facebook or Twitter” to voice your opinion on the issue.  Anyway, so you’re just living life and in the end of April, “shock and awe” happens.  Countless bombs are raining down on Baghdad for days. Though you don’t live in the city, many of your friends do, and many people you once knew are now dead.  Many people who didn’t agree with the actions a certain 19 individuals took against America on 9/11.  Many people who just wanted to live in peace. 

Now, remember, you’re nineteen so your pre-frontal cortex is just beginning to develop and your hormones are going crazy and you’re likely to make all kinds of bad, un-thought-out decisions about things.  You see all these innocent people dead and it makes you angry. Really angry.  My friends didn’t deserve this!  My family didn’t deserve this!!  

…But let’s say this little bout of rage passes over you and you eventually start getting on with life again, as normally as you can manage.  These days, the streets aren’t very safe and white guys in tanks with all kinds of guns and bombs roam the area all the time.  You always feel a little ping of anger and even hate when you see them. 

Just get the hell out of my country!

Somehow, you hear about how in America they pretty much hate Muslims since 9/11.  With all the hateful rhetoric spewing from the mouths of Conservative Christians, and the complete bias of American media in portraying all Muslims as violent, crazy people, you’re bound to hear something about it.  The Americans are in both your country and Afghanistan, and there are rumors about bombings in Pakistan also.  You could swear that the violent and crazy ones are them, not me!  Reports of more bombings and people dying are pretty much a daily thing now. 

With that, imagine you’re having just “one of those” kinds of Bad days.  Maybe a friend died, or the stress level of things is just taking a serious toll on your emotions.  You’re thinking about your religion, and the actions and words of so many Americans against it, who have no idea what they’re talking about or anything about Islam at all. 

Except for what their TVs told them. 

While pondering this fact, your brain starts getting into conspiracy-theory area when one of your friends comes over to tell you about how he’s joined some kind of radical group that is fighting against exactly what you were just thinking about.  The conspiracy of the West against your country and against Islam.  You decide to go to a meeting with him.

Okay, so obviously that was all made up, but it is entirely based on real events that happened and real things that real people feel in these kinds of situations.  My hope is that, even if for a minute, you were able to put yourself in the shoes of someone who is in the right age-range for becoming part of a radical Islamic group, not so you can condone his actions but so we can see that it was us who radicalized him!  Every step towards his wanting to join one of these groups came as a Result of the actions of Americans.  Be it the bombing and killing of innocent people, extreme hate speech, occupation of the country, or biased portrayals of Muslims in movies and on TV. 

If we seriously want to have ANY influence whatsoever against terrorism, we have to preach a different message than them!  We have to preach love, NOT hate.  We have to preach tolerance, not intolerance.  We have to preach peace, not war.  And we need to preach that the actions of One do not represent the actions of All; you cannot kill innocent people to make up for what the guilty ones Did to you.

I hope I was able to give you a different perspective on terrorism than the Tired western-media portrayal of someone who supposedly hates us for our freedoms.

Much love to you all,

A Little Left Out

So I recently went to my younger brother’s graduation ceremony and knew I was going to have to write about this after it happened (maybe you’ve experienced it, too): One of the students asked the audience to “please join her as she opened with a prayer.”  I would have expected this if I were at the graduation ceremony from a Private Christian School, or maybe if it wasn’t obviously a Christian praying to the Christian God.  However, I was at a State-Ran Public School graduation ceremony, and it was obvious which God she meant.

I sat in silence as the arena full of thousands of people bowed their head to pray with this teenage girl.  I literally was repulsed by this – not because I have any problem at all with people wanting to pray – but because I have a problem with people assuming that just because of where I am located geographically, I would Want to pray or be in the room while a prayer was being said, at a ceremony that (I thought) had No public religious affiliation Whatsoever.

Now, thankfully, I was raised as a Christian so I had at least “been there” for prayer before and “knew the drill” in this situation, but I couldn’t help but think about how completely disrespected, excluded, isolated and awkward I would feel if I were an atheist or Muslim sitting in that arena, trying to enjoy my child’s graduation, and someone had the nerve to assume that I’m just okay with you nonchalantly bringing your Personal religion into a Public ceremony and literally asking the entire room to pray (hell, I kind of felt that way anyway and I don’t even have a “Label!”).

One thing I kept on thinking was what would have happened if someone wanted to get up on stage and ask the room to say a prayer to Allah, as a Muslim, in a “let’s pray to Allah together” kind of way – nonchalantly assuming that everyone is Okay with that.  First, the school, more than likely, wouldn’t grant the request, which is obvious discrimination against non-Christians by a State Institution.  Second, though, is that the thousands of people in that room who were Christian (probably the majority) would’ve gotten pretty uncomfortable when the Muslim student got up and proceeded to say her prayer (not to mention all the letters to the school afterwards) – I can see the nervous shifty looks, fidgety hands, and uncomfortable silence of those who were around me right now.  Why are they letting a Muslim say a prayer to Allah at an American Public School Ceremony?!

Well, guys, I could ask you the same damned thing..