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Christianity & Homosexuality.

I realize there are probably a million posts on this topic around the web, but I want to present just a slightly different perspective (Honestly, I’m writing this for all the Christians that I used to know when I, too, considered myself a “Christian,” as I understand the way they think and I can generally see the exact points where their logic goes awry). So, without further ado, this is what I’d like to discuss with any Christians who believe that homosexuality is a sin: why?

So far as I can tell, there isn’t a single logical reason that the Christian community has presented as to why homosexuality is a ‘sin.’ In the past, Christians have made attempts at logical reasons like, “homosexuals are more likely to molest children,” or “children growing up in a homosexual household will have severe mental issues,” and even “homosexuality is unnatural.”  All such reasons have since been proven wrong, and most Christians have retreated to the defense that homosexuality is a sin – or somehow morally wrong – simply because the Bible says so.  This, quite obviously, makes no logical sense.  In order to claim that something is morally wrong – and yes, even Christians know this – you must have a better reason than “because so-and-so said so.”  It doesn’t matter if the so-and-so is someone you believe to be God.  Why?  Because, with that logic, you end up like the Pentecostals who won’t cut their hair “because the Bible says so,” or Baptists who won’t let women preach because “the Bible says so,” or even the Jews who won’t eat pork or shellfish – why? – of course, because the Bible says so.  The Christians I grew up around considered all of these groups of people to be Bible-illiterate, or interpreting the Bible incorrectly, yet they all are doing the same thing with regards to homosexuality these days.

Now, to be clear, some moral claims Christians make from the Bible do make logical sense.  Murdering and stealing involve infringing on another person’s rights.  Cheating and dishonesty erode the trust that is necessary for healthy relationships.  Being a drunk causes you to make horrible decisions and can be extremely bad for your health – physically and mentally.  However, when it comes to homosexuality, there are literally no logical reasons why it should be considered a sin – as in, morally wrong – only the overused claim that “the Bible says so.”  (Which, in fact, it really doesn’t, but that’s a whole post on its own.)

I would love to hear a logical reason as to why homosexuality is a sin – here’s one last one that I’ve heard:  homosexual couples aren’t able to reproduce.  But of course, in that case, those who are unable to bear children together should also be considered sinners, as should those who choose to remain single/celibate and couples who choose not to have kids. 

So, again I ask: why

Thanks for reading, and have a GRRRRREAT day!
Much love, ❤

Related Posts: Same Love, Jesus Wasn’t Christian, Speaking the Truth

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The World’s Changing, and Your Role in It

“I will do the best I can.” – Wangari Maathai, Story of the Hummingbird

The topic of the Power of One has been popping up everywhere in my life lately.  I’ve seen it in documentaries, discussed it in social psychology class, witnessed it in my own and my friends’ lives, and learned about it in the books I’m reading.  I think people often forget – or are never even told – about the power and effect that each individual person has on the world; however, society – this thing we often see ourselves as having no control over – is simply made up of people, their beliefs, and their individual actions, much like the ocean is made up of tiny drops of water.

In the documentary I Am, Desmond Tutu puts it this way: “[You may think] you can’t do anything about global poverty, but yes, you can! You can do something about this guy.”  And that guy.  And the woman over there.  Small actions such as these can combine to manifest huge changes in the world, which brings me to my next point:  the world is changing, and for the better.  I know I’ve mentioned it before, but I don’t believe I’ve ever seen it quite so plainly as I’m seeing it recently. 

Towards the beginning of the summer, there were a good three months where I was experiencing pretty intense episodes – for lack of a better term – of depression over the seemingly overwhelming ‘thing’ that is society and the direction it so often seemed to be headed.  I’ve realized, though, that there is a counter-movement.  There’s now a steady stream of people that are walking the opposite way, away from the cliff that is society’s doom, and the numbers are growing every day.  I know this.  And I want you to know it, too, so I decided to share with you some examples I’ve seen of how the world is changing for the good of all of us (I realize all people might not agree with all of these, they are simply my opinion). (;

– I see higher degrees of socio-political awareness in everybody.  Younger people are following world events; traditionally “conservative” people are opening up on issues like marriage equality, medical marijuana, and environmental destruction; “traditional” businesses are trying to appeal to people like you and me, and more and more people are in favor of peace over war, which prefaces the next point:

– The people of the world essentially halted what could have been a huge mess in Syria. President Obama was more than ready for a military strike, but between other countries and American citizens opposing the action, he decided that it “might not be a good idea.”

– Through my social media accounts, I’m seeing more and more of my friends “awakening” to idea that the world needs to change, and that we have to do it ourselves.  They are using their own accounts to spread the message.

–  There are a growing number of – in my opinion – high-profile “world-changing organizations.”  A few examples: Non-GMO Project, TED, NORML, and Food Not Bombs.

– There’s increasing access to free, online, college education on sites like Coursera, OnlineCourses, and MIT OpenCourseWare.

– We’ve witnessed the first ever legalization of cannabis/hemp in two American states, and half of the United States have legalized medical marijuana (and many are working to follow suit).

– Europe is taking large strides in terms of Energy and is doing so successfully – i.e. German Solar Power, Biking in Amsterdam, Affordable Travel via Eurail, Waste-to-Energy programs, etc.

– There’s an ever-growing amount of social and psychological research in: consciousness, empathy, violence and crime, groupthink, sociological interactions, etc.

– A rising number of people have a decent understanding of human environmental impacts, and there’s an increasing public will to change things (slowly, but surely.)

– And of course, there are many, many more which I cannot list for the sake of brevity (and this list is already quite long!).

I hope this helps you see, even a little, how things seriously are getting better.  Whenever our society’s obstacles seem insurmountable, think about all the similar problems we have overcame as species in the past: slavery, apartheid, equal rights, monarchies and dictatorships, corruption… sure, some of these problems still linger, but we humans are certainly better off than we have been in years before. Not to mention, we now have the internet to enhance our efforts! I’m confident that we’ll continue on this track of progress if we do not give up hope on the many projects and policies we are collectively pursuing.  (:

If you’re already doing your part, stick with it.  Remember the Power of One.
If you’ve yet to come aboard, join us!  Learn about the Power of One. (;

Much love going out to you all, ❤
KT

Jesus wasn’t Christian.

In Jesus’ time, there was no such thing as “Christianity,” and after Jesus died, Christianity as we know it today took a very long time to develop into its current form. 

Around the time of Jesus’ death, different groups of “Christians” formed, but most of them did not call themselves that.  The first use of Christian (those referred to as Christians in Antioch in Acts) was actually a kind of nick-name formed in an almost derogatory way to refer to people who “associated with Christ and/or his teachings.”  Christians didn’t even come up with the name themselves – most Christians were originally referred to as Nazarenes. 

So, obviously, Jesus was not a Christian in terminology.  But that isn’t all – many things that I hear Christians define themselves by today, you never hear Jesus do the same in the Bible.  Jesus did not define himself by his being against abortion or against homosexuality, though both did exist in his time.  He wasn’t a hardcore capitalism advocate, and judging by the things he said and did – like tipping over money-changing tables in the temple and advocating that, in order to follow him, rich people sell all their possessions and give that money to the poor – he probably wouldn’t be too fond of it if he were alive today.

Jesus wasn’t generally one to go around advocating all kinds of strict rules or being what you would call legalistic – on more than one occasion he discusses how love should supersede such legalism and criticizes the Pharisees for their inability to see beyond “what the scriptures said.”  (Sound familiar?)  Also, in Jesus’ time there was not yet a gospel to preach, in the sense that the whole crucifixion-resurrection thing had not happened yet, and even though Jesus – according to Christians – knew what was going to happen to him, he didn’t go around telling people that “unless you believe that I’m going to die for your sins here in a couple of months, you are gonna go to Hell!”  No, that’s not very Jesus-like.

What does seem to be Jesus-like is Love.  When asked what the most important commandment was, Jesus dismissed all previous commandments that had ever been made and said love.  Not just of God, but of your neighbor (which I take to mean every human being on earth) and yourself.  That’s kind of a huge deal.  According to Jesus, it matters more that you live a life of love towards everyone than anything else God (supposedly) ever said to do!  Now, granted – I believe that the Bible has been altered in ways we have no clue about in order to suit much bigger powers’ interests, so I’m not trying to use it as an “absolute” in the same way so many Christians do.  However, I do think that in reading about the things Jesus said and did, you will see that he was constantly preaching love, love, and love

Imagine if Love were the Number One thing associated with Christians today.  Oh, what a World that would be.  (;

Much Love to you all,

Finding Love.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”  – Rumi

I love Rumi quotes.  Not only is he almost always talking about love, but he seems to say so much about it with so few words.  It’s hard to even comment on such a clear and concise statement, but I am going to add my thoughts to the table anyway.  (;

You’ll hear many people – especially girls – in the U.S. talk about how they “just want to be loved.”  It’s usually used in a romantic context, but it can just mean in general, as well.  The people who say it feel like if they could just have the love of another person, their life would be complete!

What I think when people say this, is that they aren’t realizing that all the people in the world could love them, and that need that they feel still wouldn’t be satisfied – unless they are also able to give love back.  As I’ve said in previous posts, what I feel is necessary to truly love others is to truly love yourself.  And loving yourself is a lot easier said than done.  It involves doing a lot of inner work – the kind that people don’t want to do because it involves things like figuring out what you believe, and more importantly, why.  If you don’t know why you do the things you do, it’s pretty hard to love yourself for it. 

Loving yourself also includes things like realizing both your strengths and your weaknesses, and accepting the things you do know while acknowledging how much you don’t.  Generally, people don’t want to do this kind of inner work.  These things get messy, as you come to realize how many things you take for granted as true that actually make no sense at all.

So, what do people do instead?  They talk about “wanting to be loved,” in order to fill this hole that they have because they don’t – and can’t – love themselves.  They are either too scared, or too lazy, or too sedated by our fake “reality” to seriously sit down and challenge their most deeply held beliefs about life.  I know, because at one point I was there.  I used to spew all kinds of BS about how bad drugs were, how untrue evolution was and how I was so positive that certain people were going to hell all because “the Holy Bible Told Me So!”  I took information from other people and just repeated it without ever looking into things myself, and I and many others can tell you I wasn’t a very confident person in those days. Now that I have looked into things, I feel differently on all those points…  But I digress.

The point I’m trying to make here is, as Rumi says: do not seek for love.  Love will find you when you have found Yourself.  Focus on becoming the best person you can be, and you will start to attract people who do the same.  Love is so much better when it’s a two-way thing.

Your homework for the day (yes, homework!) is to take five minutes, and meditate – by which I mean think really hard – on one of your most deeply held beliefs.  Think about the most convincing arguments you’ve heard for and against it, your personal reasons for believing it, and what it does for your life by believing it.  When the five minutes are up, you’ll either come out more confident and energized in what you believe or motivated to get some answers to the questions you didn’t realize you had about it.  Either way, I guarantee you’ll feel just a little bit better about who you are and what you are here to do. (;

Love to you all, hope you have a WONDER-FULL day!

KT<3 

Related Posts: Pt. 1: Love Yourself, Pt. 2: Love Others, Admitting that I Don’t Know.

Same Love.

”…and I can’t change.  Even if I tried; even if I wanted to.”  – Same Love, Macklemore

I don’t believe I’ve yet commented on my stance on homosexuality, but in light of the recent DOMA decision I wanted to tell you a little bit about it.  As I’m sure you could guess, I am all for Equal Rights. ❤  Many of my best friends are gay/lesbian/bisexual, and the idea that they should be treated any differently than myself because of who they love is absolutely insane.

I think many people who oppose Equal Rights for LGBTQ people have this common idea that homosexuality is somehow unnatural, and they therefore see themselves as opposing mostly a sexual activity – something like prostitution or multiple-partner sex (that’s why they always bring those up in their slippery-slope arguments). 

What they, unfortunately, don’t really see is all of the loving, committed, beautiful relationships that are not any different from their own committed relationships.  As a result, of course, what they also don’t see is that what we’re fighting for is the right to love whomever you please, not just to have some recreational sex… though I don’t know who in their right mind would be opposed to that either. (;

Relationships between LGBTQ folk are every bit as – if not often more – loving as any heterosexual relationships I’ve ever seen.  If you are reading this and are a heterosexual who is opposed to equal rights, I’d like to ask you if you are in love.  If not currently, have you ever been?  Think about how it feels to love somebody with all of your heart, to be so in love with them that it hurts.

Now, think about how you’d feel if society looked down on you for that.  Imagine how it would feel if society shamed you for that, laughed at you for that and told you that you needed to “hide that or get out.”

Not a very good feeling, is it?  Kinda 1984-Winston-and-Julia-ish, isn’t it?

Being gay is completely natural.  It is not something you can just change about yourself – at least, not without living a lie.  To deny people anything at all based solely on the gender of people they find themselves attracted to, is no different than denying people rights based solely on the color of their skin.  It makes no sense.  Unless someone is getting hurt, the government really has no place in telling people what they can and cannot do…  It’s this little thing that we used to call Freedom.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

KT<3

Related Posts: Illusory Freedom, So… Morality?, Legality vs. Morality

Pt. 2: Love Others

This is the follow-up post to this post, so feel free to check that one out, too. (;

In my opinion, Love – true love – is equating another person’s well-being, mental and physical, with your own. To me, it is somewhat interchangeable with empathy, which is the ability to understand, deeply, what another person is feeling. Love, though, seems to have a more spiritual, soul-connection kind of feel to it. I think that it’s why people will give their lives for their loved ones, though it doesn’t often make any evolutionary sense.

As I started to discuss in the previous post, in order to truly love others you need to first truly love yourself. I mean, how can you possibly fully understand how much another person values their own life and decisions unless you value yours the same? If you’ve never felt grateful for the life you have the privilege of living, how can you comprehend that others might feel that way about theirs? It’s really hard to empathize if you aren’t capable of at least understanding where someone is coming from, and to me, empathy is like the root of love… so we’re back to needing to love yourself to love others.

I don’t want “loving others” to be seen as any kind of magical feel-good phrase that accomplishes anything just by talking about it. Love is action, and love is a lifestyle. It is a lifestyle that I sincerely believe that – were it cultivated by the majority of people, towards all of nature and humanity – would directly and indirectly solve the majority of our world’s problems.

Since the beginning of our existence, humans have been expanding their “empathy circles” from families, to tribes, to villages, to nations. Now – for some people – their ability to empathize is growing even further encompass the entire world. I, and many others, have come to the point of view that all of nature – human, animal, insect, plant and otherwise – is part of one giant family, deserving of love, and having Natural Rights and (in our case) responsibilities. A big part of why I started this blog is so I could lay out my thoughts for people and hopefully help them come to some of the same conclusions. (;

So, think about your family, or the closest thing you have to a loving family if you aren’t so close with your own – and how you feel about them. You would certainly never kill your family. You wouldn’t let them starve to death, or just go homeless. You definitely shouldn’t feel threatened or unsafe in any way around your family. If we as the human race can come to see each other as family, these same facts can and should still apply. We shouldn’t sit by and watch our fellow humans starve while we throw away literal tons of food. We shouldn’t let buildings just sit there abandoned while there are people who need shelter all over the world. We certainly shouldn’t be bombing people and their children because of the anger we feel over losing our own.

Love doesn’t do these things. Family doesn’t do these things.

What family does do is look out for each other. They take care of each other when someone has a need. They’re slow to judge, and quick to forgive. They stand up against the people who dare to mess with any of them… and of course, they have an Unconditional Love for each other. That is an attitude that I want to cultivate towards the Entire world – while encouraging others to do the same.

So, first.. Love Yourself.
Then, Love Others.

& remember that others are Your Family. ❤

Much Love!
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Pt. 1: Love Yourself

”Love your neighbor as yourself.” – The Bible & Others

Love is quite a big deal to me – hence the reason it’s in the Title of my blog. I figured it was about time to talk a little bit about it, so, here’ goes!

In order to Truly Love the people around you and value their lives and their choices, you need to understand how to love yourself, and value your own life and choices.  That’s a lot to cover, so I split this blog into two – loving yourself and loving others.

So how to love yourself?  It’s a lot easier said than done, and I don’t claim to have all the answers; I just want to hopefully be of help to anybody who might be struggling with something I’ve already been through. (;

First of all, you must realize and admit that you are not perfect and never will be – what is important is that you work on your weaknesses, not that you don’t have any.  Beating yourself up about things that you think or do is not the way to become a better person.  Give yourself permission to be happy with who you are regardless of your flaws.  Why, you ask?  Because you have wonderful talents, strengths, and experiences in a combination that Nobody else in the world has!  After realizing your Uniqueness, see that you have something to offer to the world that nobody else can; proceed to go out and Do You.

If you don’t feel like you’re particularly good at anything – start by thinking outside the “baseball, cooking, piano, singing” box of talents that probably comes to mind when you think about what you could be good at.  You might be a good listener, good at explaining things to little kids, good at making people feel better, or even just a good thinker – maybe you can analyze things to a higher degree than most people can.  No matter what, there is definitely something you are good at that can be applied on a larger scale than in just your personal life – a.k.a. What You Have to Offer the World.

Loving yourself also comes a lot easier when you can love your body.  The body you have now is the only one you’ll get, so if you want it to work for you and not against you, you need to treat it like it’s important to you!  I’ve found that the healthier I eat – more veggies, less meat/sugar/processed foods – the better my body not only looks, but feels.  And of course, the same goes for exercising.  I don’t do the whole ‘go to the gym every day’ thing, but just doing something physically active for at least thirty minutes a day works wonders for my mood and my body.  If the gym isn’t for you either, try riding a bike, going for a walk, or doing like me:  I bought a hula hoop and started dancing!  Whatever it is, just remember that living a healthier lifestyle is good for both your body and your mind, and even when it gets tough, it is worth it to come out in the end looking and feeling your absolute Best.

Lastly, what I have to say is:  love your Life.  I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again.. Life is so much better when you take the time to appreciate the Little Things.  Be happy you have a house to live in, food to eat and a computer and internet connection to even read this blog post.  You’re alive, which definitely is better than dead, and somebody somewhere loves you – even if that somebody is just me. (;

”You yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your own love and affection.”  ~Unknown

Much Love,